You know how parents always chat about the little things that make our kids light up? I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the small gestures we do as moms and dads that really stick with our kids. Impact on your kids is something we often don’t fully grasp until we see their reactions.
I’m a mother of three boys. You know what that means—life is always buzzing with energy, football practice, and all that jazz. But I’ve noticed that these tiny acts can make a world of difference in how our kids feel loved and appreciated.
Whether you have one child or a house full of energetic youngsters, these tiny acts can make a world of difference in how our youngsters feel loved and appreciated. So pin, save, or share the image below for these gestures that have a big impact on your kids!
1. Saying “I love you”
This one is a no-brainer, right? But it’s amazing how much those three little words mean.1 I make it a point to tell my boys I love them every day. It doesn’t have to be a grand declaration—sometimes it’s just a quick “Love you!” as they’re running out the door. It’s such a simple way to remind them that they are cherished.
2. Asking for their help
There’s something special about asking your kids for help. It shows them that their contributions are valued. Whether it’s setting the table or helping with a small project, kids feel a sense of pride when they know they’re making a difference.
3. Letting them overhear you say something nice about them
This one’s a bit sneaky, but it works wonders. When chatting with friends or family, make sure your munchkins can hear you say something positive about them. “Noah did such a great job at his football training today,” “Franco has been so helpful around the house,” or “Migo really knows how to make me laugh.” It boosts their confidence like nothing else.2
4. Acknowledging their efforts, not just their wins
Winning is great, but you want your darlings to know that their efforts matter more. Whether they’ve won a game or simply tried their best, always make sure to acknowledge the hard work they put in. It doesn’t matter how small the activity is. “I’m so proud of how hard you tried today” goes a long way.
5. Playing with them
Carve out time to play with your children, no matter how tired or busy you are from work. There’s just too many benefits to it.3 There was a week when I refused daily (yes, I know). On the eighth day, I snapped a picture of us coloring when my eldest said, “Caption it with ‘first time to play and not work’, Mom.” Yep, I had to glue back my shattered heart that day. So whether it’s a quick game of catch or a board game, take these moments as golden. It shows them they’re a priority, and you get to have fun together.
6. Hugging them
Physical touch is so important.4 I give my boys hugs every day, even if it’s just a quick squeeze. It’s a simple, powerful way to show love and support, and it helps them feel safe and connected. And remember that boys need just as much cuddles as girls.
7. Listening without interrupting
Sometimes, bubbas just need to be heard. So, listen without jumping in or offering solutions right away. It shows them their thoughts and feelings are important and helps build trust. After all, we all want someone to listen and understand us, even without trying to fix things.
8. Celebrating the little things
Life is full of small victories; I love celebrating them with my boys. Did someone get a good grade on a tough test? That calls for ice cream! Did someone fall hard during their football training? That needs a high-five and loud cheer for getting back up. These celebrations reinforce that every achievement, big or small, is worth acknowledging.
9. Showing interest in their interests
Little ones are into so many different things, from robots to dinosaurs to princesses to nail polish. As such, make it a point to learn and engage with their interests. It’s a great way to bond and show them that what they love matters to you too.
10. Saying thank you
Gratitude goes a long way. Whenever your tots do something kind or helpful, make sure to thank them. It teaches them the value of appreciation and encourages more of that positive behavior. Plus, it feels good to be appreciated!
Practical Tips for Busy Parents
How do you incorporate these gestures into a busy schedule? Here are a few practical tips for making time for bonding and positive parenting, and their impact on your kids:
- Set aside dedicated and regular quality time with each child individually.
- Use car rides or bedtime routines to have meaningful conversations and bond with your child.
- Involve your kids in everyday chores like cooking, cleaning, or errands. This teaches responsibility and provides opportunities for bonding through shared activities.
- Prioritize and balance your schedule to ensure you have enough energy and patience to spend quality time with your children.
- Remember that even small moments of connection can make a big impact. Take advantage of any opportunity to show love and support to your children throughout the day.
Wrapping Up
Small gestures that have a big impact on your kids don’t have to be grand or time-consuming. By simply doing the things above, you strengthen your relationship with them and create a positive and nurturing environment for them to grow in.
What tiny gestures do you incorporate into your parenting? Share them with us and let’s spread the love and positivity. Happy parenting!
- Green et al. “Parents’ emotion expression as a predictor of child’s social competence: children with or without intellectual disability.” Journal of Intellectual Disability Research, 2011.
↩︎ - Gunderson et al. “Parent Praise to 1-3 Year-Olds Predicts Children’s Motivational Frameworks 5 Years Later.” Society for Research in Child Development, 2013.
↩︎ - Lanjekar et al. “The Effect of Parenting and the Parent-Child Relationship on a Child’s Cognitive Development: A Literature Review.” Cureus: Journal of Medical Science, 2022.
↩︎ - Romney et al. “Hugs and Cortisol Awakening Response the Next Day: An Ecological Momentary Assessment Study.” International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, 2023.
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